Paddy McGuinness’ ex-wife Christine has revealed she is looking for ‘a wife’ three years on from their divorce.
In a new interview on LGBTQ+ queer podcast It Started With A Kiss, the mother-of-three, 38, who has dated both men and women, branded herself a ‘five star lesbian’ as she opened up on her sexuality, sex life and love of ‘Japanese bondage’.
She told queer icons Amy Spalding and Gareth Valentino: ‘I would love to have a wife one day, not like a legalised marriage, but like a blessing, a celebration of love and all of that, I would love to just be saying, “this is my wife.”’
‘[The double life] is ideal for me, because I don’t want to bring somebody into my personal life too quick. I like the separate life. My family, my kids, my home is up there and then I come to London, step off that train, I can work, have fun, I can sleep in and I don’t need to worry about everything.’
Christine added: ‘I love a double life! And this has become a problem because eventually it gets to the point where, obviously, I’m quite happy at this, and then my woman’s going…
‘[When] am I going to meet the kids? And “are we doing this forever?” And I’m kind of going like, “OK, I thought I did tell you that that wasn’t going to change any time soon at the beginning”.’
Paddy McGuinness’ ex Christine has revealed she is looking for ‘a wife’ three years on from their divorce as she branded herself as a ‘five star lesbian’ and opens up on her sexuality, sex life and love of ‘Japanese bondage’ in a new podcast
She told hosts queer icons Amy Spalding and Gareth Valentino: ‘I would love to have a wife one day, not like a legalised marriage, but like a blessing, a celebration of love and all of that, I would love to just be saying, “this is my wife.”’
Christine was married to TV presenter Paddy McGuinness, 52, for 11 years before they split for good in 2022 – they have three children together
‘I feel like it’s always me that sticks to the plan. This has been a thing with all of the women that I’ve dated. I’ll always let them know my situation.’
Christine was married to Paddy from 2004-2011 and while they happily co-parent their three children together, she’s clear that she doesn’t want anymore children.
‘I always make sure that that’s known.’ she said. ‘And that I don’t want any more children because a lot of the women that I meet usually don’t have children and they want children, whereas I’ve had them.
‘So that’s something that I try and be honest about at the beginning to anybody that I’m even talking to.’
Christine got very personal during the interview and said she will only use new sex toys in the bedroom, fresh out of the plastic.
She said: ‘I’m so serious. I went, “stop, no because you might be a Gold Star Lesbian, but I’m a Five Star Lesbian.”‘
A Gold Star Lesbian is a slang term for a lesbian who has never had sexual or romantic experiences with men.
She continued: ‘I’ll tell you about this one date, well, it wasn’t a date, it was when I did the whole hotel thing and not the whole date thing.
‘Because I didn’t want to ever just meet someone and it just be sex, but then kind of did find myself in a place in life where I was like, do you know what? I actually do just want to do that because I’ve been married, I’ve had situationships, I was single, I was celibate for six months, and with all of that, I just had a moment of, do you know what, I wouldn’t mind just meeting up with someone and just seeing how it goes.
‘So I got to this hotel and I’m thinking this is just sex, it’s fine. And she was a very, very beautiful, like that perfect, pretty, handsome, like masc stud type woman, really gorgeous, dark skin, like she had the whole, everything.
‘And we didn’t get straight down to it, but it was late, we just went to the bedroom, we sat down, she’s getting out her things, her accessories.
‘While she’s putting it on, she’s talking to me, she’s showing me, we’re just chatting away and she said that she was a Gold Star Lesbian. So I’m like, love that, love a Gold Star Lesbian.
‘I just think that each to their own and everything… So I was the giver for the evening and the morning, and I kept myself to myself.’
She added: ‘But it’s what always happens and I’m always quite surprised, especially when it’s a masculine woman. I always expect it to be the other way around, but it just never is. It’ll always be me doing the most and they’re a pillow princess.’
Christine spoke about doing exclusive content on adult content platform Subs and why she enjoys taking part in Japanese bondage, Shibari.
Shibari is an art form using rope to create intricate patterns on the body, emphasizing trust, communication, and emotional connection between partners.
She said: ‘It’s only more recently I’m thinking, okay, now this is great and I love this, but I’m also very self-aware and I think I’m loving a bit of a power trip here. Now, I’m never going to be a pillow princess but I absolutely love to receive as well.’
Talking further about Shibari, she said: ‘Yes! It’s so good! I was doing it, it wasn’t really about like to be sexual, it was more about the feeling of letting go, allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
‘So this was part of me getting to know myself after my divorce and then dating women and realising that with women that I quite liked wanting to be more dominant and wanting to be in control.
‘So that’s why I went to Shibari because the tying-up part is to see if you’re happy to be vulnerable and let go. Let somebody else tie you up. It’s not that they’re going to do anything. It’s more for you to be… are you okay with it?
‘And you sort of by the end of it, you’ll know if you’re the one who wants to do everything or you’re the one who doesn’t.
‘And there’s no right or wrong. But for me it was pretty like 50/50. I want to do both… I want to tie you up and I want you to tie me up. I want both. That’s what I’m learning.’
Christine revealed her pre-date rituals saying: ‘pre-date masturbate if you don’t want to… (laughs). If you want to keep yourself under control is like a number one rule.
‘I’m not judging, but if you want to like a lady and not be too quick with it, now listen, if you want that and that’s what you’re there for, you go for it.
‘But that would be prep number one. And then I think it’s really good to sort of set the room. I like to set the room.’
‘For just a cuddle, talk, catch up, get to know each other, all of that. And and I’ll usually get some gorgeous underwear. I like to start with everything new. I like to have new things, new dress, new bag, new shoes. Yeah, because for me it’s a new thing, new experience, so I’ll do it.’
Christine has previously said that she and Paddy are rarely in the home they share at the same time and feels like they will stay there in the future.
She said: ‘We know it’s going to take a while because we’ve got children, going back home, we both kind of get that reality check of we can’t just go and move in with somebody just yet.’
She admitted that at times they’ve even shown one another pictures of the women they are dating now that they are amicable exes.
Christine was diagnosed with autism in 2021 at the age of 33 and her chidren, twins Leo and Penelope, 12 and daughter Felicity, nine, are all autistic and Christine and Paddy are both keen on their children having stability in the home.
She said: ‘Well, we’re very fortunate, we live in a lovely big home and it just works. I don’t want to move my children about.
‘I think for us two, if we ever end up in something where it progresses and it turns into a relationship and then they want to live with you or whatever, which is quite quick.
‘[Paddy and I] will talk, we’ll have a laugh, we don’t go into too much detail about anything. Like, most of our conversations are focused around the children.
Christine has labelled herself as ‘being in a situationship’
‘So for me, a situationship is that bit like when you’re like dating someone but you’re not quite in a relationship.’
‘I’ve dabbled in people who are in the industry… And I’ve been trying to think like what really works better.
‘I quite like people that aren’t in it are usually like a bit more, like they’re happy to just take it slow and they understand that you know I don’t want to just put you on Instagram the next day because of my work and everything.
‘So that’s usually quite nice. But I tend to just meet people out and about, like at events and stuff. I’m quite lucky that I mix in circles with you know a lot of gay, bi, pans… And I think I’ve never gone too serious with anybody in the industry, it’s always been more of a like a fun fling type thing.’
Christine also spoke about her first kiss with a woman after Paddy, saying: ‘I remember that first kiss just being so soft and so nice and so feminine.’
‘When I think about the first time I kissed a woman again after my husband and no disrespect to him, it had been a while and I remember that first kiss just being so soft and so nice and so feminine and really just…
‘Oh, I’m covered in goosebumps because I just melted into it and was thinking, oh, thank God, like, I still… I knew I always felt it and it wasn’t something that I was worried about never doing again because when I married, I married for life, genuinely.
‘But I was really happy that I was doing it again. And I’m really happy that now I am dating women again and that I am having fun. I’ve got some of the best stories, some of the wildest memories, like the craziest experiences that only I and one other person would ever know.’
Christine was asked how she feels about dating as a neurodivergent person.
She said: ‘It’s overwhelming because you don’t know how it’s going to go. And I think for most people when you’re not sure what the outcome is going to be, you get this sort of nervous excitement.
But when you’re neurodivergent, then those feelings can get quite confused and can get mixed up. At the beginning when I first started dating, I cancelled loads.
‘It was mostly like people that I knew that I was already comfortable with. So like friendship vibes where you just blur those lines. And I’d see it as more of a like a sexual friendship than a relationship.’
She concluded: ‘I love being intimate, I love passion, I love being sexual. Yeah, I’m very open-minded and again, that’s something I’ve had to navigate for the first time because as a teenager everyone’s all a bit free and stuff.
‘And then I was like on lockdown for marriage for 15 years and done nothing, and then now I can do whatever I want and it’s trying to like figure out, you know, who’s as open as you are. That’s been a journey, so far, It’s been really fun.’
It Started With A Kiss is available on YouTube all podcast platforms now.
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