Safiyya Vorajee has revealed she feels ready to have more children and has even considered freezing her eggs following the birth of ex Ashley Cain’s baby boy Atlas.
The influencer, 34, revealed in an interview with MailOnline she hadn’t felt ready to have another baby after the heartbreaking loss of her daughter Azaylia three years ago.
Safiyya admitted she was heartbroken that Ashley had fathered a child with someone else and claims he had asked her to try for a second baby with him after their split.
She said she had been hoping for a reconciliation with Ashley but admitted she hadn’t been explicit about that before he moved on with another woman.
Despite her heartbreak, the star went on to say she uses her grief to motivate her.
She said: ‘I think what you do with grief is learn how to carry it, and for me, always turning pain into purpose allows me to feel stronger.
Safiyya Vorajee, 34, has revealed she is ready for more children and has even considered freezing her eggs following the birth of ex Ashley Cain’s new baby boy Atlas
Safiyya previously said she was heartbroken that Ashley Cain had fathered a child with someone else and claims he had asked her to try for a second baby with him after their split
Azaylia, who Safiyya welcomed with professional footballer Ashley, tragically passed away from leukaemia in April 2021 at the age of eight months
‘Every day is hard when you wake up in the morning, and it’s just creating measures and putting different boundaries in place.
‘As long as I’m continuing Azaylia’s legacy, they’re the things that actually carry me through.’
Safiyya went on to say that her daughter gives her strength and motivates her, but added that Christmas was a very difficult time of year.
She said: ‘Azaylia’s legacy lives on, and she’s my hero, inspiration and motivation. Her love and light really carries me through and gives me such courage and strength.
‘Even today was a difficult day – mentally coming up to Christmas. We’ve just done some gift wrapping for the children and the proceeds go to the foundation, but when Christmas starts drawing in on me, I have to really shuffle away and turn my pain into purpose, because it’s the worse time for me.’
Azaylia, who Safiyya welcomed with professional footballer Ashley, tragically passed away from leukaemia in April 2021 at the age of eight months.
The pair’s relationship then broke down and Ashley went on to welcome son Aliyas with a new partner in January this year.
He later revealed that he and the mystery woman were no longer together romantically but that they were happily co-parenting.
Safiyya explained she wasn’t ready to meet someone knew while she was still working through her grief, she said: ‘I wanted to work through my grief and have therapy, and I didn’t want to take an unhealed version of myself to somebody else.’
Safiyya admitted she hasn’t met Ashley’s new children but added there was no bad blood between the pair and said they’re still friends
It is not known if the mother of his unborn third child is the same woman.
Safiyya admitted she hasn’t met Ashley’s new children but added there was no bad blood between the pair and said they’re still friends.
She said: ‘That’s one of those things – our friendship has just blossomed really healthily and it’s no secret.
‘If that comes in the future, I’m a very welcoming person, so if we all end up somewhere, I’m always going to be kind. ‘
And following the birth of Ashley’s two sons, Aliyas and Atlas, Safiyya has been considering getting back out on to the dating scene but revealed she has been struggling to find anyone.
‘I just can’t seem to find anybody – I really can’t,’ she said.
‘I’ve only just recently been open to dating, because I’ve really worked so hard on myself.
‘I wanted to work through my grief and have therapy, and I didn’t want to take an unhealed version of myself to somebody else.
And following the birth of Ashley’s two sons, Aliyas and Atlas, Safiyya has been considering getting back out on to the dating scene but revealed she has been struggling to find anyone
And as she is opening herself up to love again, she is also opening herself up to the idea of more children – explaining she no longer shuts down the possibility
‘It’s not a case of wanting to find someone, it’s more a case of looking within myself and trying to work out who I am now, and what I want in life.’
Despite struggling to meet new people, the star dismissed the idea of using dating apps, explaining she liked a more ‘old-school’ approach and meeting people in person.
She said: ‘I’m such an old-school girl, I just find this whole new generation so much more difficult, and I don’t know how to get my head around it.
‘For me it’s about in-person connection, and the energy – I have to feel it, because I’m not in a rush either. I feel like it will come when it’s going to come, and I feel like my daughter is guiding me in the right direction, and God is protecting me.
‘I’ve had to really build myself from rock bottom, and that doesn’t happen just overnight.
‘Now I’m good, and I can accept if anybody wants to date me, and if I like them and enjoy them, then I’m open to that, whereas I wasn’t a year ago.’
And as she is opening herself up to love again, she is also opening herself up to the idea of more children – explaining she no longer shuts down the possibility.
But the beauty went on to say that she is waiting to find the right person and doesn’t want to rush in to anything.
Following the breakdown of the pair’s relationship Ashley went on to welcome son Aliyas with a new partner in January this year
‘For me it always goes round in circles in my mind, because it’s a really scary thing for me, but I always believe that if I’m with the right person, I don’t shut it down now,’ she said.
‘I’m open to that as well. I’m open to rebuilding our family and a home, and if I don’t find the right man then I won’t be, but I am open to that in the future.’
And the star is taking things seriously, even exploring the option of freezing her eggs although she explained that a doctor told her ti wasn’t neccessary.
She told MailOnline: ‘I actually went to one of the people who freezes your eggs, and basically, he told me that it’s not necessary for me to freeze my eggs right now.
‘I don’t know the ins and outs, and I need to get more information, but he told me that if he took the eggs out, and I then tried to get pregnant with my next partner, then it could be the fact that there’s not enough fertile eggs in there where you could get pregnant at this age.
‘After being told that, I thought there isn’t any point then.’
But throughout it all she has received a lot of support from celebrities including Lauren Goodger who also tragically lost her daughter Lorena, who was born in July 2022 ‘with no pregnancy or labour complications’ before her death at two days old.
Despite the support and the passing of time, Safiyya is still receiving professional help and still goes to therapy regularly although she has managed to cut down and is proud of her progress.
Ashley is also father to daughter Azaylia who passed away from leukaemia in April 2021 and son Aliyas (pictured) who was born in January
She revealed: ‘Initially, I was having it three times a week, because it was so dark, I felt like I didn’t want to be here anymore.
‘I needed to constantly have therapy to help me get through those weeks, and then I broke it down to two sessions a week, and I’m on one a week now. I feel proud that I’ve been able to tailor that off.’
Ashley welcomed his son Aliyas in January and later revealed that he and the mystery woman were no longer together romantically but that they were happily co-parenting.
Ashley announced the birth of his third child on Friday as he shared several snaps of the tot and said his heart was ‘bursting with love and excitement’.
The star is currently away filming a show for the BBC called Ashley Cain: Into The Danger Zone and so missed Atlas’ birth as he arrived a month early.
He wrote: ‘When you rearrange your final two filming dates three times to make sure you’re back for your son’s birth, fully expecting him to be just like you – LATE. He surprises everyone by showing up a month early!
‘Even though I’m absolutely gutted I couldn’t be there, my heart is bursting with love and excitement.
‘I can’t wait to leave the danger zones behind and come home to the best welcome ever – hugs, kisses, and sleepy snuggles on the sofa with my beautiful baby boy.
The footballer revealed that he and the mystery woman were no longer together romantically but that they were happily co-parenting and it is unknown whether she is the mother of his third child
Announcing the birth of his third son, Ashley wrote: ‘Atlas, you will always have the most beautiful, strong, and courageous guardian angel watching over you in your big sister, Azaylia’
‘Atlas, you will always have the most beautiful, strong, and courageous guardian angel watching over you in your big sister, Azaylia.
‘And you’ll share an unbreakable bond with the best big brother, Aliyas, who will forever have your back, look out for you, and stand by your side.
‘May your body grow strong, your mind grow wise, your heart remain loving, and your spirit stay pure and truly powerful!
‘See you soon, my boy – I love you.’
It is not known if the mother of his unborn third child is the same woman who had his second. MailOnline has contacted Ashley’s representatives for comment.
Ashley has not disclosed the mother of his 10-month-old son Aliyas but previously opened up about their ‘beautiful’ co-parenting relationship.
He told MailOnline: ‘We’re keeping as friends, and we are co-parenting. We have a very good relationship, so that’s how it is staying.
‘So we’re doing everything. It’s very comfortable. It’s very easy. And we make the best decisions based on our son, so great.’
Ashley penned: ‘My little girl will soon have another little brother to watch over, and my little boy will not only be a baby brother but a big brother too’
Revealing he was heading on a work trip, he continued: ‘So for now, I’m sad to say goodbye, but I look forward to seeing you both soon, my little men’
After the birth, Ashley was trolled for naming his son after late daughter, Azaylia.
Taking to Instagram he revealed he’d paid tribute to his late daughter by using her middle name, Diamond, which later explained was a ‘family tradition.’
‘It’s been beautiful, really to be able to get on, not amicably, but so well, even better, we both have Aliyas’s best interests in heart.
‘We both have love and respect for each other. And we both just want to be the best parents we can. And not only enjoy our son, but let us and enjoy the most of us and the most of life.
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