NEW YORK — Talking about beauty can get really ugly — particularly when it comes to public figures. In an increasingly connected world, there's no shortage of hot takes and judgment. That is evident yet again in recent days in the wake of a new music video from singer Ariana Grande and the release last week of her new album, Petal, which reignited commentary about her thin appearance. It also raised the question: Just because we can say anything, does that mean we should? Some saw yet more body-shaming being aimed, no surprise, at a woman in a society that constantly judges them; others said it was simply concern. Some called for…