Beartooth rockstar Caleb Shomo came out as a proud gay man after being married to wife Fleur Shomo for more than 14 years.
“There’s been a lot of speculation surrounding my personal life as of late and I feel compelled to set the record straight before it affects those I love any further,” he wrote on Instagram Saturday.
“I am a proudly gay man. This is something I’ve been unpacking and reckoning with in my life for quite some time now,” Caleb added.
The musician, 33, said suppressing his sexual orientation has been “difficult to navigate” and that he is “embarrassed” for not allowing himself “to really dig up the roots for so long.”
“I spent a decade burying feelings with alcohol, and honestly when I decided to put it down and focus on exploring why I felt this way for so long, it’s been a direct path to me reconciling with my sexuality in hopes that it will eventually lead to me experiencing self love,” he penned.
Caleb said he made a vow to express himself “whole heartedly and fully” on his forthcoming album.
“Wherever it takes me I will follow and I refuse to water any part of it down, from the music, to the lyrical content, and way I portray myself,” he wrote.
“I Will only do what makes me happy at the deepest level and what is the most honest depiction of who I am. I believe it’s impossible to love every part of you when you won’t face every part of you head on. I am trying to finally be proud of who I am and I think this is a massive part of that journey,” Caleb added.
The former Attack Attack! vocalist concluded his post by thanking those who have shown him love and support.
“I encourage anyone who’s struggling with who they are to give yourself grace. Give yourself patience. Be honest with yourself,” he wrote.
“Do the hard work instead of burying it down as deep as you physically can thinking it will change like I did. Holding these things in only hurt you and those around you. Love you all, and hopefully this is a step in the right direction to loving myself one day.”
Caleb’s wife, Fleur, also took to Instagram, writing that the past few months have been “a very disorienting and hurtful time to navigate” for both her and her husband.
“But I will always want to love, protect and support Caleb. I have cared more about his well being over the years than anything else in the world,” she wrote.
The “My Top 5” podcast co-host, 41, said she saw the “confusion and pain” Caleb endured as he battled his sexuality but she didn’t know how to help.
“You never want anything more for your person than for them to just be ok. You also ask yourself constantly if you’re a bad person for wondering wtf this means for your world & the anger you also feel,” she shared.
“I am the only person that is having to deal with the duality of this situation. To support him whilst losing everything has been incredibly hard to figure out,” Fleur added.
“You can love and support your person through the hardest time in their life, whilst also be completely demolished & lose yourself at the same time. You question everything. But I have learned the one thing I don’t need to question is our history. No matter what anyone will say, I know it.”
Fleur said that being married to Caleb for 14 years has been “wonderful and full of so much fun, adventure & love.”
“I already miss it & my husband more than anything. Our story was a good one. And now it’s done,” she wrote.
“I hope anyone in the world going through this finds hope & courage & I hope the fans can continue to support Caleb.”
Fleu and Caleb tied the knot in April 2012. They do not share any children.
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